Wednesday, July 31, 2013

The Joke is On Me

“I don't give myself time to think" and in effect that's true.  We perceive an event, then rush to check our treasure trove memory for 'experience' looking for something that compares.  Too often the experience then triggers the same feeling we had, so places that memory over what 'is' currently happening.  Then that triggers a bundle of 'memory traces' as if it were happening again.....


    How about, for a change, we 'experience' something totally new and not prejudge, or filter out what is actually happening?  How about pausing with what we 'think' its 'like' then instead entertain "What is that?" Free from resisting allows opportunity to whisper its options. Instead of 'reasons' for action; why not reason with intent to discover?  Socrates said, "All I know is that I know nothing" That is an invite to forgo judging ourselves being 'stupid' when the truth presents itself before us.  Let’s instead, embrace our walk as going from ignorance to wisdom.  So it goes, that most of the time we should know nothing. We're looking.  Some refer to that as being innocent

Tuesday, July 30, 2013

A Possible Heart




When my heart was opened by disappointment and love,
For just a few moments,
And against all odds,

I believed anything was possible.

Monday, July 29, 2013

Less Than Ideal

Viticulturalist have noticed
wine often tastes better if the soil where the grapevines are planted
 is less than top quality.
It seems, when grapes have to work harder to flourish,
They become more robust.
Often, for us,
life can provide similar situations.
The growing conditions might be less than ideal
But the stuff we produce
will turn out

extraordinary.


Sunday, July 28, 2013

Jackhammer Justice

I've arrived once again to that familiar place of now-what which orbits my craft. Perhaps it is a benefit with entertaining change to my familiar surroundings. Perhaps it is the by-product inspired by 'what if?' For whatever the reason mental chemistry spurs me to consider different; this alluring desire to toy with notions of a better present persist; daring to even dream beyond what I know to be real. All of that to admit I am willing to embrace discomfort. There was a time in the not-to-distant past I rebelled at any condition that wasn’t pleasant; I wanted safe; I aspired towards secure in the predictable. Time gently revealed my theories were incomplete; flawed by gaping errors where the seams failed to gather neatly into the congruent length of a well executed plan; the fashion was quirky with odd, disjointed absence of symmetry.

  I conjure; then step back to see the effect. I am no perfectionist, but I do have determinant standards. Boats don't fly, but bumble bees do; they’re just not too keen on hearing any physics arguments limiting them or suggesting they should stop trying. I like the nature of the unexpected. I savor news demonstrating error in ancient, cherished assurances based truth. Reminding all who will listen with an open mind that we’re still predisposed toward superstitious rationalization. I suppose from time to time I'd like to say my discontent is more akin to being a cultivated nonconformist. Yet, honestly, I'd be easy to convince I'm more the product of over indulgence. Not the rich, gift giving type, but the wandering mind left uncheck caliber. Oh, that doesn't call for any defensive maneuver inculcating an avoidance to blame due to a neglected, abused youth; or monsters who didn't care. I'm inclined to accept, so by such practice, value unbiased processing; yes, these are my warts, and yes, I can also Samba.

   

Chipping away at hand-me-down, preconceived concepts, is not work for those who can't handle jackhammers. For those who never got punched in the nose, best provoke a fight and lose; get that over with just so you can abandon the fretting fear of that painful possibility; because it will happen, it is just when will it tap on your shoulder when it's your turn. Welcome to the exhilaration of growing up. Oh, and no that's not just for children; it’s for the child like wonder we all abide with on the entire journey. As jarring justice of that Jackhammer will shake your bones, remember as the concrete cracks; as skull splitting fragments whiz past your ears; to hold on tight and just keep drilling.

Saturday, July 27, 2013

Spinning Make Believe

I relish your care
I savor your news; eagerly I frame my own
there are many gadgets stealing my attention
distractions too many to count
they claim my day; they seduce my interest
evening envelops me with quizzical whispers
where had my day gone
I frittered it away
under the wind tossed sails of necessity
convinced by must
a deceptive habit
an assigned routine
of dominating purpose
I am no slave to ritual
this I am certain
yet on occasion
I must recall
my endearments
kindling smiles
possessed of meaning
where true as not
busily spinning
life effort

into make believe.

Friday, July 26, 2013

Very Good Fortune

“What was any art but a mold to imprison for a moment the shining elusive element which is life itself- life hurrying past us and running away, too strong to stop, too sweet to lose.” 


  I had this unexpected good fortune to stumble into a spot of time to do what I wanted.  Not that I am a slave to my schedule or whims of my boss, just that I had an instance of liberation from my expectation.  With or without permission, we all fall prey to planning out our day into increments of tasks; chores; and have-to’s.  Knowing as I do they are all subjective ‘must’ where I made the selection of importance and it was not under duress; but rather from a desire to have my future vision become the real.  Having written all of that, suffice to say I took opportunity by the throat and made it spew up my demands; vivid imagery there isn’t it?
  I wrote emails to friends:

  I did so with liberty to focus my attention on the residing affection I held for each person I addressed.  So in a conversational way I laid out the current challenges, chagrins, and obstacles in my path of making comfortable and easy my situation.  The funny thing was, each rendition brought to light an overarching satisfaction and appreciation to my lot in living the life I now can say without hesitation, I enjoy.  That is nowhere near saying it is absent of conflict; in fact I feel I am constantly in the arena of argument with some institution or another over inappropriate charges or refusal to provide the services I paid for and now expect delivered with shiny happy faces…thank you very much.  But I am not taking it personal; I do not see any of these issues as insulting, accusing, or blaming.  It is, just the trappings of a complex and complicated society in which I thrive.  Now it is true I sacrifice some simplicity for this privilege; I can’t walk down to the local stream or river to get a drink of water; yet I readily recognize I also don’t have to be concerned with my upstream neighbor’s cows using that very same river as a toilet.  My correspondence to distant endeared friends are those of articulated challenges and struggles in much the way one would discuss how to slay threatening dragons.  
Do I approach from the flanks?  Should I sneak up during its slumbers?  Yes, I use to have a vanquish mentality.  Now, I’m a trainer-tamer.  I can use a dragon for many useful things, if I can only devise a way to lure it to my cause; because win or lose, the results are fleeting. Whether I am successful in my quest or I am not is really immaterial.  What does matter to me is that I no longer place combat skills forefront on my list of premier abilities; now the notion of dragon tamer entices my aspiration to master magic.  The useful, productive kind; much as the marvel a farmer must feel when the crop ripens.  

“Look at that life sustaining bounty”

Thursday, July 25, 2013

So Close to True

We could certainly slow the aging process down
if it had to work its way through Congress.

~Will Rogers

Wednesday, July 24, 2013

Polished Pebbles

  There was a boy who lived by the sea; every day he would walk along the shoreline collecting unique pebbles that enchanted his attention.  It was not long before his mother would scold him for leaving them lying around the house creating clutter. She prompted him to take them outside, out of the way.  He refused to leave them out in the open, so she countered his reluctance by suggesting he keep them in the back shed among the other forgotten tools and outdated items the family had collected to ease their life.  He visited his prized collection often, in fact, every day; he wiped them clean of residue dirt and dust that had settled on them. The cloth he used was a soiled remnant his father used when servicing the mower.  The combination of the oily rag with his constant rubbing brought the stones to a glossy shimmer; over time they looked to have been encased in a cocoon of glass.  Many of his friends and family thought his hobby rather odd; on occasion chastising him for wasting his time on such an empty, useless endeavor.  He would smile at their taunting, but inside he was deeply hurt that they would not see his delight in his practice.  He didn’t care if wasn’t practical, that it didn’t make money, or aid the family in its effort to sustain itself.  All that mattered to him was his recall of time and again his elders advising him to be happy; but when he found something that gave him that happiness they ridiculed his choice.  What he felt was the absence of encouragement and over time it began to squelch his joy in the delight of his hobby.  Eventually he was asked to help clear out the shed of unnecessary junk, and in that he elected to give away his box of prized polished pebbles.  On impulse he took the box to a local store and convinced the owner to put the box of stones on consignment, offering an even split of the profits.  Days later the store owner excitedly reported that all of his pebbles had sold at a handsome price; also if the boy happen to have more stones they could enter into another arrangement where the boy was offered more of the profits.  The young boy raced to the shed and searched for hours to find other forgotten stones; after a full night of searching he had several handfuls just as beautiful as the ones he surrendered to the store owner.  These he brought to the shop keeper and just as quickly as the others these too sold briskly at double the asking price.  Once more the store owner pressed the boy to bring more, as well as amending is offer to share even more of the profits.
  But the boy knew with certainty there were no more stones in the shed. It was not long before he concluded he must go back to the shore and seek out new rocks and shine them so they could sell them to the demanding public.  He spent the rest of that day walking up and down the shores seeking only the most alluring pebbles, for he was dedicated to the notion that his pebbles must meet a standard that only he kept dear in his heart.  That night he discovered techniques to polish the stones to their luster in a fraction of the time it use to take.  In the morning he went to the store and he turned them over to the shop owner who was overjoyed with the bounty of pebbles; he saw quickly they would both get very wealthy with this enterprise. 
  Now the boy’s family was taken totally by surprise by this good fortune.  The young boy brought home fists full of golden coins, enough to meet their wildest dreams. At first they thought the boy had stolen them, and were prepared to beat the truth out of him.  Having delayed that notion until he talked to the store owner is a credit to the boy’s father for keeping his anger in check.  Soon the entire family went scouring the shorelines in search for special pebbles; but they did not possess talent for finding them the way the boy did.  The young boy rejected most of their offered finds.  This created a bit of resentment with his siblings; soon they chose to ignore the enterprise altogether claiming the young boy had become arrogant and a tyrant over the pebble project.  This was ok by the boy since he never felt the need for their help or had rejected any desire for their approval a long time ago.
  One day the local doctor was shopping in the store that carried the stones.  He spotted one that charmed him and amused by its luster.  The more he handled it and considered its beauty, the more an idea struck him that he could use such a stone in his treatment for a chronic stomach problem that plagued this tiny fishing village.  He decided to put his theory to a test and had his patient swallow several of the stones.  Such enough, the stones were of the optimal size to break up the painful tumors in the stomachs of his patients, so remedied their affliction.   The doctor experimented several more times and in each case the results were instant success.  The doctor in turn became renowned throughout the region as being an excellent healer.  Soon he was overwhelmed by patients from the far reaches of the land seeking a cure to this curious, albeit painful, ailment.  The doctor in turn sought out the boy who polished the pebbles to obtain an exclusive access to his stones.  There were of course copies and imitators to his stones process, to be sure, but all of them were of inferior quality being either too small or too large to meet the very demanding specific quality the doctor needed for his procedures to succeed.  In those where the other stones were use either the stones were passed out of the stomachs, or created their own distress and had to be taken out by a very painful operation.  In those days there was no anesthesia so you can just imagine having someone cut into your stomach to fetch out some stones.
  The doctor made a very attractive offer for the exclusive rights to the boys polished stones, but the boy’s family had grown very greedy by the success of their young son’s abilities to polish these seaside pebbles.  They wanted more than the doctor could afford, so the boy had to refuse his request.
  At that very same time the king of the province became afflicted with the very same and strange stomach affliction.  All of the courtly doctors could not cure the king of his constant complaints.  One day the Lord Marshal was told of this particular doctor in a tiny village near the shore of his land who was very successful with curing the local peasants of a very similar malaise.  So the doctor was summoned to the castle and asked to assist his Regent.  The doctor explained that he might be able to cure the king but that he needed a portion of some very specific polished pebbles that only a single young boy could provide. The problem, the doctor when on to say, was this young man’s family priced the stones beyond affordability and that their avarice was so keen they were content to let sick people suffer rather than provide the pebbles to the doctor to use in healing these poor folk. You see the doctor was very angry at the family for persuading the boy to reject his offer, so took this opportunity to punish them.  When the king’s attendants heard of this stingy young boy and his family, they advised the king to send his soldiers to the town and demand the boy surrender the stones to the doctor under command of the King.  Furthermore, after he obeyed the order, to torch the entire town and kill all of its residents as an object lesson to the entire kingdom the consequences of a stingy, greedy disposition.  Because the king was in so much agony he could not reason clearly the harshness and mean spirited nature of such an order; but so acute was his suffering, all he could utter in reply was,
   “Anything to make this pain abate!”

  So the Lord Marshal ordered the kings army to descend on the town and demand the stones from the boy, who readily gave them up without haste.  Then the doctor was ordered to follow the soldiers back to the castle. After the doctor had  left the town with his stones, the soldiers carried out the rest of their orders and swiftly killed all the residents in the tiny hamlet, including the pebble polishing boy, along with his entire family. Then they burned all of the buildings there and stayed until the fell to the ground in ashes.  It was a sad fate for the town that had done nothing wrong, along with the young boy who had turned his hobby into a source of income for his family.  What the doctor did not know was the stones the boy had given to him had not been completely polished; or at least not to the standards the young boy believed as necessary.  Yet, because he was placed into a demand for his stones, and was sorely afraid if he argued or delayed, he hurriedly complied without saying a word.  He did not caution the soldiers that they were not ready; he was unaware of the plot to destroy the town after he surrendered the stones either.  But that didn’t matter to him or his town; they were destroyed nonetheless.  When the doctor administered the pebbles to the king they were still too course and abrasive, so they ripped small fissures in the stomach of the king resulting in him bleeding to death; whereby the doctor was summarily executed for malpractice.

Tuesday, July 23, 2013

Forgotten

There’s surprise embedded in the new; then there is the startle in the unexpected; yet I am hard pressed to describe the specific feeling of re-discovery of my forgotten.  Oft as not it happens while I am looking for something else amidst my unlabeled boxes. A treasure from the past, well tucked away, suddenly springs out to claim my attention.  It’s accomplished with adept speed.  I happened on that feeling just the other day while searching for something to write about.  I make it a point to steer clear of daily issues that invoke passionate polar positions.  Ah, the joy of hollering “Is not” followed by “sez you.”  Gosh, how I miss kitchen table squabbling with siblings…not.  So then, I peruse my past writings for something to spark my imagination and get me to pontificating…neat huh?

  I read recently where sentimentality was considered in some quarters as just a diluted type of depression; the feeling being an amalgam of derivative emotions sparked by sorrow in loss.  Perhaps all roads in life lead to grief, so I am not all that surprised with that type of assessment as well as giving it a degree of credence.  I’d sprinkle that interpretation with a healthy dose of affection and kindness though, just to soften an otherwise callous point of view concerning our shared human existence; if a case for judging sentimentality as a state of delusion or denial of the actual that is. I didn’t mean to attack those heart-pause moments when looking at wedding photographs; or the sighs that come along with snap shots of toddlers building sandcastles in the long ago surf crashing in the background.  Just as I am inclined to wonder when I indulge in such things as to where those smiling people in my personal history are today; what are they doing right now?  Mostly liberated from the entangling resentments or judgments of long past affronts, I’d toy with the kindled affection from then into hoping they were happy. Isn’t that the most silly of sentiment of them all?

Even if indulging so

 seems to warm me…what’s the harm? 

Sunday, July 21, 2013

The Really Great Forgotten Quote



Just remember the drag queen motto from "To Wong Foo Thanks For Everything Julie Newmar" -



1. Ignore Adversity


2. Abide By The Rule sof Love



3. Let Good Thoughts Be Your Sword and Shield




4. Larger Than Life is Just The Right Size


Saturday, July 20, 2013

In A Yes Universe

In a yes universe
There may be absence,
but no lack.
Affirmation is possible,
not effortless
Enough with what I don't like.
Let me hone appreciation,
into a sense of
calm
and clarity.
I prefer immediate answers
to hard pressed conundrums.
all I really want
is for dreams
to be reconciled with chance.
To quiet the screaming
in my skull,
as the rollercoaster
of condition
reminds once more
how impermanent
the out of control
situation can be.
Who can effectively listen
Under such absurd
And persistent


circumstance?

Friday, July 19, 2013

The Love of Fear

  In fear we try to control love. 

 Untrusting of love, we do not want to be hurt once more by what we think was love.  And there stands the paradox of human reasoning.  For its not the trusting in love where hurt resides, but in the fear of its flight.  So in fear embraced, we take actions to control.  Each has tools in which to attempt capturing and chaining love to our whims.  Most run and hide.  In denial to trust; to refuse giving away completely to loves invite; we resist the very visit we ask the heavens for.  Tentatively, we go only so far, robbing ourselves of the the desired glory.  Once, in our history, having given then failed, come the determination to never trust like that again.  In that demonstrated doubt; it possesses chance for an open heart.  Then fear is planted in suspicion of every candidate heart.  Each shares their fear inspired by the other's, hence comes the nudging anxiety to avoid being the one rejected, hurt, and used.  The ground love stands upon becomes contaminated, so it will depart for more hospitable, fertile fields.  In the wake, once a common bond of engaged sharing love, becomes transformed into an arena of struggle for control; the objective of giving lost to the focus of protection.  Hope strangled, then tossed aside is replaced by suspicion, entitlement, attachment, and other foster children of dread.

            Love comes unadorned; without condition.  Its trademark is tale-tell amidst the fog of fear; as a lantern to be followed upon our hearts path.  Acceptance, gratitude, and compassion shine.  Know the sign of being in the false premise that is fear's grip; fear does not allow.  When we release, an act of faith, every time


             We fall into love.

Thursday, July 18, 2013

Our Civil Liberties



  

Civil liberties include the freedom from slavery and forced labor; freedom from torture and death; the right to liberty and security; freedom of conscience, religion, expression, press, assembly and association along with speech, (thank you bill of rights). It is also the right to privacy; the right to equal treatment and due process and right to a fair trial, (also guaranteed in the bill of rights). Then there is the all important right to life. Other civil liberties may include the right to own property; the right to defend oneself; and the right to bodily integrity.
  We in the US enjoy these liberties; we consider them imbued to our very being and beyond the scope or control of governmental intervention. Yet, sad to say, today’s climate suggests these fundamental civil liberties should be curtailed. Restrictions are offered under the guise as the price, the very personal cost, of protection from terrorism. We’re told time and again that individual liberties are subject to compromise for the sake of safety. We are told it is necessary to preserve our way of life; we are also told that it is a little thing of consequence when compared to the broader grander scheme of preserving society. Yes, we are sold a nightmare existence of competing horrors. Our security is not the subject of my posting; I am concerned with my rights. 


  I refuse to abrogate them for the sake of fear; for the terror of lack. I accept life is impermanent. I also acknowledge and embrace the uncertainty of my comfort. But I will not; no never, resign to any who would attempt to intimidate me with poorly veiled threats saying I am a slave to other’s worry over my welfare; a threat where I must surrender my personal freedom to purchase a promised guarantee. There is no promise I can redeem on an empty account. I will take my chances as a visitor on this physical plane; and I will develop a keen sense of awareness as my defense along with reason to find my way on the unfamiliar paths I choose; knowing all along~ there are tigers in the jungle. Some will lurk in the shadows and pounce when they think I am vulnerable. Others will whisper I should just give up without a fight and walk into their gaping hungry jaws.

Wednesday, July 17, 2013

Nothing External Can Be Shared

Nothing external can be shared....
the only goal that allows true joining is the realization
of an abstract idea. 
For, ideas can be truly shared. 
If our goal is to realize the same idea,
we can do that together. 
We can both experience the same idea at the same time. 
We don't experience our part of it; our share. 
We both experience all of the idea.  
This is how joining in finding a better way is saking...together. 
Only a goal that is truly holy can be shared
and conversely,
if a goal has been truly shared,

it must be
holy.

Tuesday, July 16, 2013

Abandon All Hope



  Dante’s Inferno is a well read epic poem, renowned for its depiction of a commonly held human dread of perishing into Hell, (Inferno is Italian for Hell). At 35 Dante Commedia narrates his journey through hell guided by the Roman poet Virgil. Odd as it may seem, it is named Divine Comedy that served as an allegory for the soul’s journey towards God and the recognition ~ then rejection~ of sin; perhaps there’s a secret hidden in the open?
  His trip takes him through nine circle of Hell; Limbo, Lust, Gluttony, Greed, Anger, Heresy, Violence, Fraud and Treachery, which just so happens to include four of the seven deadly sins. Each sin's punishment in Inferno is a contrapasso, a symbolic instance of poetic justice. As an example, fortune-tellers had to walk forward with their heads on backward unable to see what was ahead; this due to their lives spent trying to see the future through forbidden means. Such a contrapasso functions not merely as a form of ironic divine revenge, but rather as the fulfillment of a destiny freely chosen by each soul during his or her life; something I consider Karma, a Sanskrit word translated to mean ‘actions’.
  I address this today as an amalgam of experiences. Last night I saw a marketing ploy where a banner flashed ‘abandon hope’ on an activity; suggesting if you’re not using their product your efforts are fruitless. Seeing the phrase, something of recognition to the familiar phase from the Divine Comedy clicked. When Dante passed through Hell’s doorway, above the arch was the inscription, the ninth (and final) line of which is the famous phrase "Lasciate ogne speranza, voi ch'intrate", or "Abandon all hope, ye who enter here." 


  That very next mid-early-morning-not-quite-sleeping-nor-awake phase sometimes that visits, I found myself criticizing my many interest colliding into one another rendering half-step results; in effect, none of them were prospering as much as I judged should be; mostly, I reason, because they are in mid-stride development. From stories, books, music to numismatics (a legacy my father left me upon his passing.) With those crept in a host of household tasks along with community commitments I’ve made; all chiding about slow progress. 
 
  Perhaps this was the beginning of this post for today; the notion of sloth. For whatever spawns the practice of self-criticism, the task at hand is to learn its affect then distilling its effect. On that note, I’d notice the skill of living well is to dismiss any suggestion that doesn’t add quality. Hope is not a plan, and relying on it as a trump card against incremental living behavior towards an ending based on those choices is foolishly naïve. We are free to choose our course; just as we are free to adjust that course in light of experience. What is not helpful are concepts that suggest an escape from consequences by a supernatural being who happens to give us an alibi or treat us as special amongst the host of other living creatures who must abide by nature’s laws. 
  To embrace the notion that our efforts are subject to divine intervention if we plead enough, or demonstrate our goodness for approval before we experience progress or success is a belief in resignation to responsibility that is requisite in order to enjoy true freedom. This is, of course, in no way a manifesto against divine existence; but is a declaration of inclusion into the great journey of living under the banner of ultimate-unconditional free will.

Monday, July 15, 2013

Necessary Madness

  The propensity of my quoting cannot be measured; or more accurately spoken, most of the time.  I was just toying with the notion of how often in conversation we use statistical references to influence our positions in arguments. 
   “90 percent of the time”  creeps into the fray quite often, but by whose account?  What research has been accomplished, and even if there was, can it be cited as being free of bias?  Yet, it is the tactic commonly used to inject such made up statistical reference models as a point of convincing; and yes I’d say its deceptive in its best case, and lying at its worst.  Some time ago I read Ethics for a New Millennium, by his holiness the Dali Lama, who by the way, has been publishing his insights since 1962; with his first being, My Land and My People. But this isn’t necessarily a plug for the Dali Lama’s writing career as much as being the point of bringing to light a uniqueness that has impressed me to the point of changing my reference to the way I use words.  His is an art of applied intention.  
He phrases; his observations; are made not in confrontational manner; that is also to say not too obscure either; not in the least.  His points are rivetingly simple and clear, yet non-accusatory. He can point to improper behavior without assigning judgment or suggesting punishment.  Yes, he is a pro.  Having witnessed that quality I look at words now at how they are used, and I consider them in a different perspective; oft as not I play with ways to make meaningful without faulting; no small task.  Just as I mentioned about statistics, I swerve away from statistical nudging now using...um…more colorful terms inviting dialog.  I no longer rely on a lofty, unproven percentage quote, using other common and useful terms.  90 per cent becomes ‘most times; 50 per cent becomes often; when minimizing for my arguments benefits I don’t use a small percentage, but say ‘sometimes’ or ‘rarely’.  Often that practice works; most times I think on it…even after the opportunity had passed.
  I am also ever on the lookout for a spoken phrase that transcends mundane.  Whether reading it or hearing, the effect makes my heart skip…I guess you have to be a wordsmith to get where that’s coming from.  Suffice to say, I enjoy sharing those moments of neoterisitic excellence of expression. Exempli gratia:
“Are you going to let me have a good time in my own quiet way, or must I take this place apart?” 

Bill Roberts  in The Docks of New York (1928)

Sunday, July 14, 2013

The Consuming Faith

I have at my command, the power of faith
But I must be a student of that power, so that it does not consume me
As a fire consumes fuel
My evidence is experience, and with that I build trust.
And should that trust be tested and remain valid for me
I will place my belief into the soundness of that trust.
In time, if that belief proves also reliable, I will indulge my tendencies
To predict
And with doing that, place my precious hope into the cradle
Of my certainty.
And in that certainty remain faithful
for the sake of honoring my freedom to choose
respecting all the while
faith can burn like fire
for left unattended my faith can also consume me
by inattention to what is actual


Do not believe in anything simply because you have heard it.
Do not believe in anything simply because it is spoken and rumored by many
Do not believe in anything simply because it is found written in your religious books.
Do not believe in anything merely on the authority of your teachers and elders.
Do not believe in traditions because they have been handed down for many generations.
But after observation and analysis
When you find that anything agrees with reason
And is conducive to the good and benefit of one and all
Then accept it and live up to it.
Hindu Prince Gautama Siddharta, the founder of Buddhism, 563-483 B.C.

Saturday, July 13, 2013

The Sacred Point of View

  The story goes that a kindergarten pupil told his teach that he had found a cat, but it was dead.
   “How do you know the cat was dead?” she asked her pupil.
   “Because I pissed in its ear and it didn’t move,” the child replied.
   “You did WHAT?!” the teacher exclaimed in alarm.
   “You know,” explained the boy, “I leaned over and went “Psst!” and it didn’t move.”
 The above amusing dialog is but a precious demonstration of innocence colliding with a point of view expectation.  The joke reminds me over again how easily I can be seduced to embrace the worst of situations; more succinctly, to agree that others are motivated by despicable attributes.  All of that to say I practice assigning others intent.  As sorry as I am to report this on a public forum my possessing such foibles, forever sinking any fledgling hope of being informed I had won an election to a great and powerful position, I remain unabashedly naked in the light of truth.  I jump to conclusions; to the degree I climb into people’s skulls and believe…yes believe I know what they are thinking, feeling, and planning; just like the teacher had with her young protégé.   

Let me also add these are not the mistakes of adolescence, but continue to persist into my elder years; such as they are.  I’ve lost count of how many arguments I’ve been embroiled in based upon perception of what I felt others meant.  In every instance I engaged in emotionally laden combat rather than speak in kinder tones requesting clarification. Time and again in the aftermath, should peace be resorted, and where revisiting what each meant could be discussed without eogic ownership of the sacred position of rightness, it would be revealed once again by a shared, surprised exclamation of
“Oh, I thought you meant…”

    Mistaken assumptions compounded by accusation and insult.  But never mind all of that in its glorious generality, because I’m amused by the continued practice of a quality afterwards that I never get tired of being part of; forgiveness.

   “What doesn’t destroy us makes us stronger” said Fredrick Nietzsche.  In affairs of the heart, that can be doubly applied.  Oh, and isn’t it a really great opportunity to learn to laugh at our imperfections? It’s as if they were always there.  Funny that.